The Rich Gets Richer

We often hear people say "the rich gets richer, the poor gets poorer".  This usually refers to the widening of the income and wealth gap, because those who have, are more likely to earn more and save more, than those who have not.  Hence, a good government will focus on its education system, to bring low income families above the poverty line.

But my post is not about money.  I refer to rich and poor in terms of ATTITUDE.

Generally, a person with the right attitude, will usually make the right decisions, and outcomes tend to be good. This motivates the person to continue to use the right attitude in life.  Bosses and friends recognise this good attitude, and the person's confidence grow even bigger, leading to even better life quality.

On the other hand, a person who is negative or pessimistic, will often make mistakes because he uses the heart much much more than the brain when making decisions. The bad outcomes demoralises him, and he is more convinced that life is not fair to him. He spirals down even further.

How, or what then, is good attitude?  In my opinion, simply:

• Refrain from getting angry. Use the moment to analyse and reflect on the situation. Getting angry does not solve the problem, and usually makes it worse instead;

• Be around people who are positive;

• Listen to what we are telling ourselves.  Negative thoughts are detrimental;

• Tell ourselves "it is difficult but possible" instead of "it is possible but difficult";

• Focus on things we can control, mitigate things we can't;

• Always think and plan before executing any task.  Failing to plan is planning to fail;

• And when we fail, don't find scapegoats to blame. Reflect instead. When we make mistakes or fail in something, see it as an opportunity to learn and improve from it, rather than sulk and hide away;

• Use positive words to describe our life.  Instead of saying "I am busy, I hate my work", say "My work is challenging but interesting, it keeps me engaged."

• Do our best at work.  Don't cut corners.

• Think big, the world does not revolve around me.  It is not about me;

• Spend our time caring for loved ones, instead of pets (it can be demoralising if we spend our evenings talking to our dog);

• Don't complain.  Give constructive feedback instead.

• Appreciate the nice little things in life, like flowers blooming in the park, kids smiling at us at the mall, people who say thank you to us;

• Find something meaningful to contribute to the society;

• Make someone smile each day.