Telling Lies

The ability to lie seems to be inbuilt in almost all human beings from young.  It will be interesting to know whether this is nature or nurture. 

I do not believe in using lies to cover up mistakes/mischiefs.  When we lie, we are likely to create more lies later on, to cover the previous lie.  At some point, we may forget what we have said and contradict our story and it will come back to bite us.  

When we are caught lying, our credibility goes down.  And it will be very difficult for others to trust us again. And the world will not be a nice place to live in, if many people around us are not sincere/truthful.

Be brave.  We will find that it is happier if we told the truth and move on.  Don’t let telling lies burden us.

Example: Someone is asking you out but you do not want to.

Lie : "I am not feeling well." 

If we do this, we'd better not post anything on social media or go anywhere for the rest of the day, because we are supposed to be sick.  

Truth : "I don't feel like going out today."  This is a fact.  The other person will not be able to force you if you stick to this reasoning.

I had a colleague who took medical leave from work one day, but was seen having lunch with the boyfriend at a mall.  Well, she had a review session with her supervisor the next day.

Example : You were late for work.

Lie : "The traffic was bad." 

Well, have you noticed that all your other colleagues are already in office?

Truth : "Sorry boss, I woke up late."  Just tell the truth and make the effort to prove to our boss that we will never be late again.

However, sometimes we want to lie to prevent someone from getting hurt/implicated, or to get out of an uncomfortable conversation etc. We will need to assess the situations and decide accordingly.

P/S: Do not jump to spreading news and rumours.  Wait for confirmation from reputable sources. In my opinion, spreading fake news is as bad as telling lies.